I’ve heard the same comments over and over from girls’ volleyball coaches. “This team is an emotional roller coaster” “They constantly focus on the bad plays and not the good” “No self confidence” “They blame themselves and each other” “Their negative attitudes show on the court”… You won’t find a volleyball team that doesn’t have problems with emotions.

For teenage girls, intense emotions are undeniable facts of life. But, there’s got to be a way to keep the negative energy off the court. If not, out of the gym altogether (I know. That may be pushing it a little.)

Recently, I introduced a “self help” tip to my team: Set small goals.

Remember the movie “What about Bob?”? Sorta like Dr. Leo Marvin’s “Baby Steps” program, except your players are not middle aged men with OCD… and it’s unlikely that you are a psychiatrist. But the same principles are there. Take one step at a time. For example, before a tournament, set a hitting percentage goal or a passing percentage goal… or even simpler, “I’m going to focus on attack selection in this game” or “I’m going to pass every free ball with my hands.”

Here’s a good article on how setting smaller goals can help you stay motivated to achieve that big goal – say winning a state championship for example.